The Year that Was

HAPPY NEW YEAR to all my Southernistas! It is my prayer that 2019 will be a blessed and prosperous year for you in every area of your life!

I know we that it is January 1, 2019 buy I just wanted to take a moment to look back on 2018. The beginning of the year started out on a sad note for my family with the passing of my grandfather 8 days into 2018. It definitely left a large hole in our life! My Grandfather was 96 years old and he was more like a Father than a grandparent andI miss him so much!

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My Grandfather, Ray Dempson 

With the sadness came joy and many changes in my life I started this blog which I never thought I would ever have a blog I mean what in the world do I have to say or add for that matter that hasn’t already been said or done but I discovered that I do have something to say and I am really enjoying blogging.

I was part of Dia & Co ambassador pilot program which is now the Dia Domino program and I am happy to still be involved in this program. Through this program I met Laura Stanberry (check out her blog) who is not just my style sister and shopping buddy but a great friend. I also met an amazing group of women in the Dia community which lead to an epic girl’s weekend in Nashville, TN with these women who I now call friends. We talked, laughed, shopped, and truly bonded and we continue to keep in touch with each other. I love these ladies!

2018 was also a year that saw me stretch myself fashion wise I wore leggings/pants and animal prints and until 2018 I had never worn any of those items. I found out I love leggings and while I will always love and never give up my dresses and skirts I now have a new appreciation of leggings! Again I have Dia to thank for pushing me out of my fashion comfort zone. As far as my fashion  is concerned I really feel like I stepped up my fashion game. I also started playing with accessories and started taking better care of my skin.

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Leggings & purse from Dia&Co, Blouse from Stitch Fix, Cardigan from Lane Bryant (no longer available), Shoes from Payless (no longer available)
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Pants, Cardigan & Shirt from Dia, Shoes from Botkier (no longer available), Bag from Nine West
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Leopard Print Bryant Blazer & Allie Skinny Pant from Lane Bryant, Shoes and Bag from Payless Shoe Source Christian Siriano collection

These are just a few of the great things that happened to me in 2018! Even though the year started out sad it ended on a happy note and I am looking forward to what God has in store for me, my family and you in 2019.

Until next time Southernistas Be Bold, Be Beautiful, Be Confident!

Nashville Photos by Tammi Montgomery NicPix Photography

 

Shoe Spotlight: Just Fab

Hey y’all!

I hope you had a great 4th of July and a great week if you’re on vacation this week.

I want to talk about another of my favorite go to for shoes: JustFab (www.justfab.com). In fact at one point just about every week I had a delivery waiting for me from JustFab. Just Fab doesn’t just offer shoes they also have handbags, clothes, and jewelry. Other brands that are part of the JustFab brand are JustFab Kids, Fabletics which is there active wear brand, and Shoe Dazzle but today I want to talk about their shoes. JustFab is not a subscription service but you do have join JustFab. You fill out a style profile and the cost is $39.95 a month but you have the option of skipping the month if you don’t see anything you like or if it’s not in your budget. The cost is applied as a credit towards your purchase so you can easily pay only the shipping cost and nothing else. I cannot say enough about JustFab and their shoes they offer. They have flats, heels, wedges, boots, and sneakers. They also offer many of their shoes in wide widths and they go up to a size 12 and they offer some their boots in wide calf. If you see a pair of shoes that you love and it doesn’t come in wide widths I go up a 1/2 size and this works for fine for me. I really love this brand and I really love the fact that they offer an extensive selection of shoes so there is something for everyone. You have to be quick if you see a pair of shoes you really love because they do tend to sell out fast.

Gingham Heels and Flats (no longer available)

I loved these so much I got them in both colors (no longer available)



At JustFab there is a shoe for everyone and every style and if you get overwhelmed with the shoe choices you can narrow your search by size, heel height, and type of shoe!

Until next time Be Bold, Be Fearless, Be Confident!

This is not a sponsored post.

Nine West Shoes

Nine West Shoes

Hey Y’all!

Well it’s Friday which means its time for another shoe spotlight and this week I am putting the spotlight on my new favorite Nine West. This year Nine West is celebrating it’s 40th Anniversary! Forty years of stylist and beautiful shoes this is a milestone! Nine West also carries handbags, sunglasses, hats, and other accessories. I am relatively new to Nine West shoes but my sister has been a Nine West customer for years and I always admired her shoes I don’t know what took me so long. Some of you may think Nine West is out of your budget but there is always a sale so you can get a great pair of shoes at a reasonable price. I like to wait until they have their buy 3 and get 40% off sale and then I rack up on shoes I’ve been eyeing. I wear a size 9 wide and although Nine West does not offer wide widths I order a 1/2 side up and the shoe fits comfortably. They also offer up to a size 12 but they don’t offer wide calf boots but I hope that Nine West will in the future offer both. Check out Nine West you’ll thank me!

Photo by Zoe Litaker

Nine West Dempsey Sandal Floral

Nine West Dempsey Sandal Black

Nine West Eyesonyou Open Toe Sandal

Until next time! Be bold, Be Fearless, Be Confident!

Breaking the Rules

Happy Sunday y’all! Well it’s the first official weekend of Summer! Welcome Summer

As a plus size woman the one thing I’ve learned is that there are a lot of fashion don’ts for plus size women. Don’t wear floral anything, no stripes, no polka dots, no crop tops, no color, in fact just wear black it’ll make you slimmer. I was a faithful follower of these fashion rules because I wanted to look skinny so it was monochrome only and I also wore big shapeless shirts and dresses because I was trying to hide my fat. Since I started my fashion journey two years ago (wow 2 years!?)the one thing I’ve learned is that rules are made to be broken. I started following plus size bloggers like The Real Sample Size (www.therealsamplesize), Lisa of the blog www.mustangsalleytwo.com, www.grownandcurvywoman.com just to name a few and these women are a size 22/24 and their fashion is fierce! I remember when my Mother & daughter gave me a dress a few years for Mother’s day and I really didn’t want to wear it because it was a bold stripe print and all I could hear in my head was “it’ll make you look fatter you shouldn’t wear stripes” but I wore it and it’s still in my closet and every time I wear it I get nothing but compliments.

Print Maxi Dress (Mother’s Day gift)

Don’t let these so called fashion rules stop you from wearing what you like and love. Before you rule out a dress, shirt, pants, etc because it goes against the “fashion rules” try it on and see how it looks on you. You will be surprised I know that I have been blown away by pieces that I didn’t think would look good on me how good they actually look on me and how it makes me feel.

Wrap Dress w/tie Shoulders (no longer available)

The only fashion rules that should exist are your fashion rules. You know what works for you better than someone who has never met you. If you’re not sure take a trusted friend along to help or if you can afford it meet with a stylist who specializes in plus size styling to help you find what works for you. Above everything break those fashion rules and wear what makes you feel beautiful, fearless, bold, and confident!

Eloquii Kimono Wrap Dress (no longer available)

Shirt & Trumpet Maxi Skirt from Eloquii

Until next time be bold, be fearless, be confident!

What My Grandfather Taught Me

Hey Y’all!

Happy Father’s Day to all of you Dads out there! As I am writing this blog I’m feeling very emotional and I struggled with writing this blog. My Grandfather, Ray Dempson, passed away on January 8th of this year and it has left a big hole in our heart. He lived 96 years on this Earth and saw and experienced so much in his long life. He grew up in the Jim Crow South, served in World War II and the Korean Conflict, remember the day Martin Luther King Jr., President John F. Kennedy, Malcolm X, and Robert Kennedy were assassinated. He also had the honor cooking for Marilyn Monroe when she was in Korea to entertain the troops! I mean how cool was my Granddaddy!

My Grandfather, Ray Dempson

So I want to share some lessons my Grandfather taught not just me but my family:

First Lesson — Treat people the way you want to be treated. He really believed in the golden rule. This was probably is number 1 rule. He really believed that if you treated people with respect they will give you back the respect. If only more people would remember to do this today.

Second Lesson — Give your all on your job. Granddaddy worked all of his life. He was born in 1921 and was raised on a farm and when he was teen the country was in the mist of the Great Depression and yet he still found a job off the farm. He was a CC Boy (Civilian Conservation Corp) during the Depression and then he enlisted in the Army. After the military he held several jobs. He retired from Woolworth and continued to work into his 80s. He instilled in my Mom, myself, my daughter, my siblings, and other family members that when you go to work you do the best job you can do and no slacking. He instilled a strong work ethic in us and the importance of doing a good job.

Third Lesson — You can’t make everyone like you! For the majority of my life all I wanted was to be accepted and liked by everyone. No matter how badly I was mistreated I was willing to put up with it to be liked and accepted. My Grandfather would constantly tell me you can’t make everyone like you and you don’t have to let people mistreat you to be liked. It took me a long time to learn this lesson but I finally learned the lesson.

Fourth Lesson — Don’t let people walk all over you! Again it took a long time to learn this lesson especially in my work life but I finally did.

Granddaddy Father’s Day 2017

These are just a few of the lessons I learned from Granddaddy. I really miss him! I miss his words of wisdom. I miss the many stories he told us about his life especially his childhood stories. If your Father is with you this year hug him just a little harder because you never know how long you’ll have him with you.

My Mom and Daughter (his favorite Great Grand) with him at last year’s Family Reunion

Rain (Great Grand) and Granddaddy

My #1 Cheerleader

My Beautiful Mom



My Mom is amazing and she is my #1 cheerleader. Without my Mother in my corner pushing me and cheering me on there wouldn’t be a blog. I honestly don’t know what would have become of me and my daughter. When I became pregnant with my daughter at a very young age my Mom and Grandmother rallied around me even though they were disappointed in me they never condemned or judged. She encouraged me to stay in school and go to college and she raised my daughter while I was away at college. She worked two jobs to put me through school and she was always a phone call and 1 hour ride away. I can’t remember a time in my life when she wasn’t in my corner cheering me on. She called me out when I was wrong and she did it with love.

When I talked to her about starting a blog she asked questions but she never tried to discourage me but listened as I listed all my fears. Then she went out a bought me a laptop so I could pursue this dream of being a blogger. She has taught me what a great Mom is and what it is to be a woman of God. My Mother was always pushing me in my fashion choices and whenever she would buy me something it would always be something I would never have bought for myself. As you can see from her pictures being stylist and fashionable runs in the family. After all this is the woman who got married in a blue wedding dress!

She has lived out her faith before me and my siblings. She has and continues to pray for her family everyday.

Mama taught me that it is better to give then to receive and that you don’t have to broadcast it but do it. If I ever get married (she’s praying for that day)I’ll know how to be a good wife because she lead by example.

I could go on and on about my Mother but I’ll end by saying celebrate your Mom if she is still with you. I know Mother’s day is tomorrow so do something extra special for your Mother but make sure you celebrate your mom everyday because she is worth it!

Happy Mother’s Day y’all!

When I look at this picture it makes me sad because I see someone who was sad and depressed, and my…


Dress from Dia & Co, Shoes from Payless Shoe Source, Scarf from Amazon.com

Dress from Stitch Fix


Dress from Ashley Stewart (No Longer Available) Shoes from Payless

When I look at this picture it makes me sad because I see someone who was sad and depressed, and my fashion reflected that I had given up on me. I had bought into the myth that if I wasn’t a certain size I couldn’t be stylish. So, my uniform became big and boxy and as you can see big and boxy doesn’t do anything for me or for anybody for that matter! I had given into all the negative thoughts and let my past control my present. I believed that I was fat and ugly, I believed that I wasn’t worthy of beautiful fashion until I lost weight, I believed that I had to accept whatever was given to me to wear, I believed that nothing looked good on me period! Then December 29, 2013 happened I woke up that morning sobbing my heart out, feeling like an utter and complete failure, depressed and convinced that if I died no one would miss me. That day marked the beginning of my journey of discovering who I am. I cried out to God and he heard my prayer and I entered 2014 determined to make some changes in my life.

I rededicated my life to Jesus and began the journey of getting to know who Regina is. I can’t tell you how important it is to have cheerleaders in your life. My mom, daughter, my best friend of over 30 years, and my church have been my biggest cheerleaders. I made peace with my past and stopped listening to the negative voices in my head. I stopped just going to websites such as Eloquii, Igigi, and other plus size retailers and looking and wishing I could wear that because the fact was that I could wear these clothes these companies existed for me. I started following plus size bloggers and it boosted my confidence to see other size 22/24 and up women rocking fierce fashion and it made me realize that fashion is not a number on a scale or a tag in my clothes, but fashion is about who you are and how you want to express yourself.

I burned the fashion rule book for plus size women and began to develop my own rules and learned that my style is very feminine and modest. I discovered a love of florals and bold prints and patterns. I’ve always loved bold color and I’m slowly incorporating color into my wardrobe. I’m discovering that I am so much more than society says I am and I have never been happier. The first 3 years of this journey was allowing God to bring me from my broken place to a place of wholeness. He put me back together again and put a smile in my heart. The last two years have been a fashion odyssey. It is my prayer through this blog that you will join me on this journey and that it will inspire you to break free of negative thinking, your past, break out of your style rut and burn your fashion rule book too!

Until next time be blessed, fashionable, and beautiful!